RCCG House Fellowship Leader Manual – DATE: SUNDAY, 4TH DECEMBER, 2022 – Lesson 14 – TOPIC: SAYING NO
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RCCG HOUSE FELLOWSHIP LEADERS’ MANUAL
DATE: SUNDAY, 4TH DECEMBER, 2022
LESSON: 14
TOPIC: SAYING NO
HOUSE FELLOWSHIP ANTHEM
- I love this family of God,
So closely knitted into one,
They have taken me into their arms
And am so glad to be
A part of this great family - I bless this family of God,
So greatly prospered by the Lord,
They have taken me into their arms
And am so glad to be
A part of this great family - I know this family of God,
So deeply rooted in the word,
They have taken me into their arms
And am so glad to be
A part of this great family - I see this family of God,
So highly lifted above all,
They have taken me into their arms
And am so glad to be
A part of this great family - Come, join this family of God,
So highly favoured by the Lord,
They have taken me into their arms
And am so glad to be
A part of this great family.
OPENING PRAYER: Father, please me to trust You always and forgive others.
PREVIOUS KNOWLEDGE: Leaders should remind members of what they learnt in previous lesson.
TODAY’S LESSON
A. MEMORY VERSE: “But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil”. Matthew 5:37
B. BIBLE TEXT: 1 CORINTHIANS 6:18-20.
- Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
- What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
- For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.
C. LESSON INTRODUCTION: Saying no is an act of standing your grounds and not letting people take advantage of you. Bible makes us to understand that we should let our yes be yes and no be no. Matthew 5:37. Sometimes you end up disappointing people because you were not able to say no when you should have. So it is important to learn not to be A yes person all the time. Saying no does not make you less than you are. Sometimes, when we stand our position, it is a plus to our personality and characters.
LEADER’S DIARY.
A. LESSON AIM: To have the understanding that saying no to ungodly prompting is divine and it safeguards one from destruction.
B. TEACHING OBJECTIVES: At the end of the lesson, members should be able to:
i. See some benefits of saying no to what God tested.
ii. See examples of those who refused to say no and the repercussions.
C. TEXT REVIEW: 1 CORINTHIANS 6:18-20
i. Fleeing appearances of evil is avenue to rid future groaning.
ii. You need to know that your body is where God resides.
iii. Every saved soul was bought with the price that is called priceless gift.
D. TEACHING METHOD: The leader should use discussion method.
E. TIME MANAGEMENT: Share the teaching time, use suggested time schedule.
LESSON OUTLINES ONE:
PHOBIA OF SAYING NO
The fear of saying no also stems from the urge to:
- Avoid alcohol
- Also because we do not want to be confrontational
- Because we also do not want to hurt the other person’s feelings
- Because we do not want to loose relevance and association
LESSON OUTLINE TWO
HOW TO SAY NO WITHOUT HURTING EITHER OURSELVES OR THE OTHER PARTY
- Appreciate them but let them know that you will not be able to honour their request.
- Let them know who you are and the choices you have made in your other commitments and would not be able to compromise your position.
- Always check with your LORD in prayer before ever saying yes to any request.
- Instead of saying yes, tell the other party to give you time to think about it and you give an answer.
LESSON OUTLINE THREE
EXAMPLES OF THOSE THAT REFUSED TO SAY NO
- Remember King Jehoshaphat who nearly lost his life when he refused to say no to demonic offer, 1 Kings 22:4-32.
- Remember Balaam that received gain of deception for not saying no, Numbers 22.
- Gehazi refused to say no to flesh prompting to sin and later got Leprosy, 2 Kings 5:20-27
- Esau refused to say no to unquenchable hunger, he lost his birthright, Genesis 25:32
- Absalom refused to say no to his ungodly ambition, he died shamefully, 2 Samuel 15:3-6
ASSIGNMENT: Assess your life and see what you need to say no to.
SUMMARY: Unquenchable thirst for mundane things is deadly.
CONCLUSION: It is very important that we do not make ourselves yes men and women and at the end we are then seen and regarded as unreliable people. It is important to always say no to sin and anything that looks like sin, 1 Thessalonians 5:22, James 4:7.
PRAYER POINTS
- Father, grant me the grace to say no to the things that do not please You.
- Father, help me to always seek Your consent before saying yes to any request made to me.
- Father, let me always put You first in all I do.
- Father, bless RCCG and make us the apple of Your eyes.
GOLDEN DIET FOR THE WEEK
MONDAY: Stand for the truth at all times. Do not mix your words.
TUESDAY: Saying NO when necessary does not make you a coward but a man/woman of integrity.
WEDNESDAY: Matthew 10:28, fear not.
THURSDAY: It doesn’t matter if you are rejected/hated because you said no, God will always vindicate the truth.
FRIDAY: Everything will come to light sooner or later.
SATURDAY: Psalms 25:4, always seek God’s will/counsel.
SUNDAY: 1 Chronicles 21:7, it is dangerous to displease GOD in order to please men.
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