RCCG House Fellowship Leader’s Manual 7 June 2020, Lesson 41 – Beware Of Hidden Sins Of Parenting

TOPIC: Beware Of Hidden Sins Of Parenting (scroll down for RCCG House Fellowship 7 June 2020 Anthem)

PRAYER POINT: Father, please make me a wise parent and a good example

PREVIOUS KNOWLEDGE: Leader should ask members through who we are Justified

MEMORY VERSE: “For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.” – Genesis 18:19

BIBLE PASSAGE: Genesis 27:1-25 (KJV)

1 And it came to pass, that when Isaac was old, and his eyes were dim, so that he could not see, he called Esau his eldest son, and said unto him, My son: and he said unto him, Behold, here am I.

2 And he said, Behold now, I am old, I know not the day of my death:

3 Now therefore take, I pray thee, thy weapons, thy quiver and thy bow, and go out to the field, and take me some venison;

4 And make me savoury meat, such as I love, and bring it to me, that I may eat; that my soul may bless thee before I die.

5 And Rebekah heard when Isaac spake to Esau his son. And Esau went to the field to hunt for venison, and to bring it.

6 And Rebekah spake unto Jacob her son, saying, Behold, I heard thy father speak unto Esau thy brother, saying,

7 Bring me venison, and make me savoury meat, that I may eat, and bless thee before the LORD before my death.

8 Now therefore, my son, obey my voice according to that which I command thee.

9 Go now to the flock, and fetch me from thence two good kids of the goats; and I will make them savoury meat for thy father, such as he loveth:

10 And thou shalt bring it to thy father, that he may eat, and that he may bless thee before his death.

11 And Jacob said to Rebekah his mother, Behold, Esau my brother is a hairy man, and I am a smooth man:

12 My father peradventure will feel me, and I shall seem to him as a deceiver; and I shall bring a curse upon me, and not a blessing.

13 And his mother said unto him, Upon me be thy curse, my son: only obey my voice, and go fetch me them.

14 And he went, and fetched, and brought them to his mother: and his mother made savoury meat, such as his father loved.

15 And Rebekah took goodly raiment of her eldest son Esau, which were with her in the house, and put them upon Jacob her younger son:

16 And she put the skins of the kids of the goats upon his hands, and upon the smooth of his neck:

17 And she gave the savoury meat and the bread, which she had prepared, into the hand of her son Jacob.

18 And he came unto his father, and said, My father: and he said, Here am I; who art thou, my son?

19 And Jacob said unto his father, I am Esau thy firstborn; I have done according as thou badest me: arise, I pray thee, sit and eat of my venison, that thy soul may bless me.

20 And Isaac said unto his son, How is it that thou hast found it so quickly, my son? And he said, Because the LORD thy God brought it to me.

21 And Isaac said unto Jacob, Come near, I pray thee, that I may feel thee, my son, whether thou be my very son Esau or not.

22 And Jacob went near unto Isaac his father; and he felt him, and said, The voice is Jacob’s voice, but the hands are the hands of Esau.

23 And he discerned him not, because his hands were hairy, as his brother Esau’s hands: so he blessed him.

24 And he said, Art thou my very son Esau? And he said, I am.

25 And he said, Bring it near to me, and I will eat of my son’s venison, that my soul may bless thee. And he brought it near to him, and he did eat: and he brought him wine, and he drank.

LESSON INTRODUCTION:

What is Parenting? Parenting refers to the process of nurturing, raising and training a child from infancy to adulthood. It involves parent-child relationship. Parenting involves moulding the character and behavioural pattern of children. Inculcating discipline in them and teaching them moral values. Parents play a great role in shaping up their children’s behaviour and personality. God expects parents to bring up children who will love Him, fear Him, obey Him and serve Him. Parents are the mirror that the children see and copy; it behooves on the parents to be perfect Christian models. Children learn a great deal from their parents.

TEXT REVIEW: Genesis 27:1-25
i. We all are equal in God’s sight, so also should parent deal with their children.

ii. No sinner will go unpunished. Avoid parental sin.

iii. There is no justification for any type of sin.

iv. Your system of parenting should not be the cause of enmity, discord or hatred.

v. Adopt the God system of parenting.

LESSON OUTLINES

PARENTING SINS

Parenting sins need to be differentiated from parental sins.
Parental sins are wrongdoings or misdeeds and offences committed personally by either the father or the mother or both either before their marriage or within their marriage season.
Biblical example includes the sin of disobedience committed by Adam and Eve. Genesis 3:1-11.
On the other hand, parenting sins are wrongdoings or misdeeds and offences committed by either the father or the mother or both BECAUSE OF THEIR CHILDREN.
Rebecca committed the sins of lies, cheating, deception and fraud against her husband, her son Esau, her God and humanity in order to divert her husband’s blessing to her favorite son, Jacob. Genesis 27:6-19.
Parenting sins are sins committed by the parents for their children in the course of bringing up the children. These are usually done to protect the parent’s personal and selfish interests.

EXAMPLES OF COMTEMPORARY PARENTING SINS

Parents who arrange abortion for their pregnant daughters who are impregnated outside wedlock to cover up for family shame and position in the church or society.
Many Christian parents prefer to disobey God’s commandment in Matthew 5:21 “Thou shall not kill.” Than to face the shame associated with having a pregnant daughter outside marriage.
Many parents paid and some are still paying mercenaries to write exams for their children. Many exam malpractices have been officially reported involving the use of third parties paid for by the parents to ensure the success of their children. Some pay for special centres, some pay for question papers and other dirty deals just in the guise of helping their children.
Many parents use their money to buy employment and school admission etc. Names of many students on provisional admission lists often disappear because some rich parents fund such manipulations to favour their children.
Over parenting may end up in tragedy. This is excessive use of money and positions to give their wards preferential treatment and in most cases compromising the laws. We have seen parents who buy freedom for their children involved in crimes, cultism etc.

WHAT IS THE WAY FORWARD?

Discipline your children. The Bible, from Genesis to Revelation, teaches that parents ought to lovingly discipline their children. Ephesians 6:4 says, “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”
In Proverbs 13:24 the Bible says, “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.”
Love your children; spend time with them. Cut out some of your so-called “important social engagements” and make your home the center of your social life. God will honor you, and your children will grow up to call you blessed (Proverbs 31:28).
Teach them high moral and spiritual principles of life. Show them that only the morally and spiritually sound people attain genuine satisfaction in life. Evangelist Phillip had four virgin daughters who were also prophetesses. Acts 12:8-9.
Teach your children to fear God, obey His commandments, and serve Him Genesis 18:19.

SUMMARY:
Do not be the cause of generational problem for generations to come. Be a wise parent.

CONCLUSION:
Children are the heritage of God (Psalms 127:3). They are considered as blessings from Him. We are only to train them in the way they should go. Proverbs 22:6. In the course of training up our children, we are to make them “keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgment”. (Genesis 18:19a). Parents are to ensure that while bringing up their children, they do not introduce them into sin. Parenting sins can cost the parents Heaven and will drag them to hell. Parents must therefore ensure that they do not compromise God’s commandments in the course of bringing up their children.

ASSIGNMENTS:
Mention other sin you know that is prominent amidst parent.

PRAYER POINTS:

Father, by your Holy Spirit, make us godly parents in Jesus Name.
Father, please help our children to be receptive to the good training they receive in Jesus Name.
Pray for rapid growth of RCCG physically, spiritually and numerically.
Pray for Daddy G. O and his family.
Personal prayer requests.

GOLDEN DIET FOR THE WEEK

MONDAY: Proverbs 27:23
Take care of your children.

TUESDAY: Proverbs 13:22
A Godly father.

WEDNESDAY: Exodus 20:12
Keep your children alive!

THURSDAY: Colossians 3:21
Provoke not your children

FRIDAY: Psalms 1:2
Parents should delight in knowing the Lord.

SATURDAY: Proverbs 22:6
Train up your child.

SUNDAY: Psalms 127:3
Children are the heritage of God

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AUTHOR:
Pastor E.A. Adeboye.
The General Overseer of, The Redeemed Christian Church Of God.