Topic: Speaking in Love Instead of Speaking Your Mind – Daily Devotional by Proverbs 31 Ministries 22 July 2024
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Speaking in Love Instead of Speaking Your Mind
JULY 22, 2024
“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18 (NIV)
One time, I had a co-worker I just didn’t get along with. I think both of us wanted to get along, but because of communication differences and even mutual competitiveness, we often didn’t. It got to the point where I started avoiding elevator rides with her.
Finally, one day she said something hurtful to me, and I just snapped. I rolled my eyes and said something unkind and snippy back. Although my response reflected how I felt, it was not a great thing to say and only made our conflict worse.
After two more weeks … I finally brought the situation to Jesus. Praying about it, I asked for Him to make me slow to speak and quick to listen and for my responses to be loving.
As I continued to pray about the conflict, my conversations with my co-worker improved. When I stood up for myself, I was kind and loving in doing so. My words began to reflect Jesus’ love more than just reflecting my own thoughts.
Was there still tension between me and my co-worker? Occasionally. But my responses brought peace instead of fueling the fire. Speaking in love instead of just speaking my mind added goodness to my life and to this tense relationship.
The truth is it’s unhealthy to run away and hide from conflict or tension. It’s also unhealthy to voice our every thought and speak harshly, even if it’s how we feel. Instead, let’s strive to speak in love by the power of the Holy Spirit. This means our words reflect Jesus and His love.
When we speak this way, our words are:
- True (John 8:32).
- Gentle (Philippians 4:5).
- Kind (Proverbs 16:24).
- Wise, discerning and self-controlled (Proverbs 25:28).
It is better to be kind than right. It is better to seek holiness than to seek being heard. Sometimes speaking in love means having righteous anger, being bold and standing up against injustice. But even in those moments, we can strive for prayerful discernment.
So when we have to respond to the not-so-nice co-worker, the ex-friend who now gossips about us, or our own children or family members who are being unkind, may we seek to speak in love instead of speaking our minds.
Dear Jesus, help me to be slow to speak and quick to show Your love in all my conversations. Will You remind me to speak in love by the power of Your Spirit? Let Your love be evident in all I do, including in my words. Remind me that my words have the power to hurt others … or to point people to You. Allow my words to show kindness, love, gentleness and Your goodness. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
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