Topic: You Are Not the Only One – Daily Devotional by Proverbs 31 Ministries 25 March 2020

“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1 (NIV)

I was talking recently with my friend Jamie after she’d had a long, disappointing Monday.

Despite her best efforts, everything went wrong. Frustrated and discouraged, she lamented that at the end of her day, while baking cookies for a sick friend — and burning half of them — she caved and inhaled a handful of the sweets.

And that’s just the beginning. After eating those cookies, Jamie carried immense guilt and shame on top of everything else that had gone wrong on that horrible, rotten, no-good day.

I have been there. My guess is you have, too.

Once, when my kids were little, I came up with the brilliant idea to invite all the fourth grade moms from my son’s school over for coffee, conversation and homemade chocolate chip cookies.

It seemed like a good idea, but my plan to win friends and influence people through chocolate quickly crumbled. While trying to roll store-bought dough onto cookie sheets and frantically hiding all our clutter — I gave in and ate (more like “sucked down”) four ooey, gooey warm and chewy cookies.

Later that week, I sunk into my therapist’s couch and cried. I was disgusted with myself and filled with self-loathing and shame. Why? Because of the cookies. I was sick of pretending to have it all together when the reality was, I was hanging on by a thread — a thin thread at that.

In my longing for connection and acceptance, I tried to numb my feelings with homemade cookies. And afterward, what did I do? I let the enemy weigh me down with lies, guilt and shame.

My therapist nodded. “Cindy, do you think you are the only woman who has eaten homemade cookies?”

“But I ate four cookies. Not one, not two, but four,” I roared, as if she couldn’t understand the meaning of the number four.

“Cindy, do you think you are the only woman who has eaten FOUR of her homemade cookies?” my therapist replied.

“Um, yeah, probably not.”

So, when I listened to my friend Jamie describe her self-loathing over eating her chocolate chip cookies, I recycled my therapist’s question.

“Jamie, do you think you are the only woman who has eaten homemade cookies? Because, friend, you are not the only one.”

And the words I gave Jamie are the words I want to give you: You are not the only one.

You are not the only one who deviated from your healthy eating plan.
You are not the only one who feels disappointed, discouraged or overwhelmed.
You are not the only one who wonders if you’re “enough” compared to airbrushed perfection.

Obviously, we know there are far more serious issues that can cause shame or guilt or lead one to land on a therapist’s couch. (As a former cocaine addict, believe me, I know.) But no matter what sin you’ve committed, you are the one Jesus loves!

Sweet friend, you and I aren’t meant to live under harsh judgment, condemnation and self-loathing.

Thankfully, God’s Word speaks Truth to you, me, and cookie-lovers everywhere. Romans 8:1 says, “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”

Jesus convicts us, but He never condemns. In Him, we are forgiven and free. No guilt. No shame. No more wallowing in what He has washed clean.

And when we understand God is FOR us and loves us no matter what, we can give the same grace to ourselves that we extend to our friends.

We would never say to a friend who over-indulged on something, “You stink. You have no self-control. You’re a disgrace.”

So why do we allow such horrible, garbage thoughts to fill our heads?!

Let’s choose grace over guilt.

Let’s choose kindness over criticism.

Let’s choose Truth over lies.

Let’s choose God’s love over self-loathing.

Whether your challenge is cookies, cocktails, credit cards, or cravings for other worldly substitutes, may the God who made you, knows you, and is for you, remind you that you are accepted, enough and loved — cookie crumbs and all!

Dear heavenly Father, thank You for Your great and lavish love for me through Your Son, Jesus. Please help me to experience Your grace, even when I make mistakes. I want to live in Your freedom and fullness. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.