RCCG House Fellowship Leader’s Manual 14 June 2020, Lesson 42 – The Husband Of One Wife And One That Controls His Family

TOPIC: The Husband Of One Wife And One That Controls His Family (scroll down for RCCG House Fellowship 14 June 2020 Anthem)

PRAYER POINT: Father, please help me to live blameless and upright in Your sight.

PREVIOUS KNOWLEDGE: Leader should ask members for any sin they know parent commit on behalf of their children.

MEMORY VERSE: “If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.” – Titus 1:6

BIBLE PASSAGE: 1 Timothy 3:2-13. Titus 1:4-9. Acts 21:7-10 (KJV)

1 Timothy 3:2-13;
2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;

3 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;

4 One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;

5 (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)

6 Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.

7 Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.

8 Likewise must the deacons be grave, not doubletongued, not given to much wine, not greedy of filthy lucre;

9 Holding the mystery of the faith in a pure conscience.

10 And let these also first be proved; then let them use the office of a deacon, being found blameless.

11 Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.

12 Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.

13 For they that have used the office of a deacon well purchase to themselves a good degree, and great boldness in the faith which is in Christ Jesus.

Titus 1:4-9;
4 To Titus, mine own son after the common faith: Grace, mercy, and peace, from God the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ our Saviour.

5 For this cause left I thee in Crete, that thou shouldest set in order the things that are wanting, and ordain elders in every city, as I had appointed thee:

6 If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.

7 For a bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; not selfwilled, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker, not given to filthy lucre;

8 But a lover of hospitality, a lover of good men, sober, just, holy, temperate;

9 Holding fast the faithful word as he hath been taught, that he may be able by sound doctrine both to exhort and to convince the gainsayers.

25 And he said, Bring it near to me, and I will eat of my son’s venison, that my soul may bless thee. And he brought it near to him, and he did eat: and he brought him wine, and he drank.

Acts 21:7-10;
7 And when we had finished our course from Tyre, we came to Ptolemais, and saluted the brethren, and abode with them one day.

8 And the next day we that were of Paul’s company departed, and came unto Caesarea: and we entered into the house of Philip the evangelist, which was one of the seven; and abode with him.

9 And the same man had four daughters, virgins, which did prophesy.

10 And as we tarried there many days, there came down from Judaea a certain prophet, named Agabus.

LESSON INTRODUCTION:

God expects every Christian to grow to maturity even to the full measure of the standard of Christ. Ephesians 4:13-14. He expects us not to be spiritually fed with milk longer than necessary as babies in Christ but to progress to feeding on strong meat. Hebrews 5:12-14. He also expects from those that would lead His people His people that they would meet certain requirements. 2 Timothy 2:21

TEXT REVIEW: 1 Timothy 3:2-13. Titus 1:4-9. Acts 21:7-10

i. There are guidelines for churches to select leaders

ii. If any body aspires a leadership task, he aspires a noble position.

iii. To have gift and qualities and not take on leadership positions may be disobedience.

iv. Leadership comes with responsibility

v. Every leader should be tested before given an official position.

LESSON OUTLINES

A. GOD’S REQUIREMENTS FOR YOU TO LEAD HIS PEOPLE AT ANY LEVEL:

God does not toy with His children for He sent His son, Jesus to die for them and Jesus purchased His Church with His blood. Acts 20:28.
God has therefore set standards to be met by anyone aspiring to lead His people from the least level to the highest: 1 Timothy 3:2-12

i. A bishop then must be blameless

ii. Vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach.

iii. Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre.

iv. But patient, not a brawler, not covetous

v. One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man knows not how to rule his own house, how shall him take care of the Church of God?)

vi. Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he falls into the condemnation of the devil.

vii. Moreover, he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.

viii. Likewise must the Deacon be grave, not doubletongued, not given to much wine, not greedy of filthy lucre

ix. Holding the mytery of the faith with a pure conscience.

x. And let this these also first be proved; then let them use the office of a deacon, being found blameless.

xi. Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.

xii. Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.

B. OTHER SCRIPTURES SET THE SAME STANDARDS:

God wants leaders or elders appointed to direct His children aright and He would not compromise on His standards. Titus 1:4-9.
Acts 6:1-8. Even when seven leaders were to be appointed by the twelve disciples of Christ in the early Church they sought for those with
i. Honest report
ii. Full of the Holy Ghost) i.e. Spirit filled)
iii. Wisdom

C. ARE THESE CONDITIONS ATTAINABLE?

i) Yes, in Acts 21:8-10
a. And the next [day] we that were of Paul’s company departed, and came unto Caesarea: and we entered into the house of Philip the evangelist, which was [one] of the seven; and abode with him.

b. And the same man had four daughters, virgins, which did prophesy.

c. And as we tarried [there] many days, there came down from Judaea a certain prophet, named Agabus.

ii) Phillip, The Evangelist As Our Template.
a. He was full of the Holy Spirit. Acts 8:5-8, 39-40.

b. He was of Honest report. Acts 6:3

c. He was full of wisdom Acts 6:3

d. A husband of one wife and together they raised godly four daughters all virgins. Acts 21:9

e. He had a spirit filled Home and all his four daughters were prophetesses.

f. Their home was warm, peaceful, disciplined and full of the major reasons why Apostle Paul and his Team spent many days with them and Prophet Agabus equally visited. Acts 21:10

SUMMARY:
God’s standard is sealed. He would not reduce His standard for any man irrespective of your position.

CONCLUSION:
God has high moral and spiritual standards for anyone that would genuinely lead His people because they are very precious to Him, 1 Peter 2:9.
He needs you to direct His flock aright as He doesn’t want them to be scattered without a shepherd. Why don’t you purge yourself of every filthiness and draw closer to Him now 2 Timothy 2:21; James 4:8 and very soon it will be your turn to be used by God. Acts 13:2

ASSIGNMENTS:
List 5 requirements a leader must meet and why those requirements should be met before emerging leadership positions.

PRAYER POINTS:

Lord Jesus, thank you for purchasing your Church with Your Blood.
Father, please touch all our children to be God fearing and abstain from sin.
Father, take away from all RCCG members everything that you hate.
Daddy, please make my family spirit filled like that of Philip, the Evangelist.
Father, please help us to keep enforcing your standards in our choice of leaders for your Church throughout RCCG.

GOLDEN DIET FOR THE WEEK

MONDAY: James 4-8; 2 Timothy 2:21
Father, let there be genuine repentance in the land.

TUESDAY: James 1:22-25
Be ye doers of The word and not hearers only.

WEDNESDAY: Acts 21:8-10
Phillip the Evangelist combined successfully his Evangelistic Outreach with a spirit filled home of one wife and four daughters – all virgins and prophetesses and capped it with good hospitality.

THURSDAY: Genesis 21: 8-14
Abraham restitute; even-though you are polygamous; God can still use you as a leader if only you will first restitute maritally.

FRIDAY: Proverbs 22:6
Father, help us to train our children in the way of The Lord.

SATURDAY: Titus 1:4-5
God is still looking for who to ordain as centre leaders, coordinators, Pastors, evangelist, teachers, Choir masters etc

SUNDAY: Titus 1:4-9
Father, give us leaders that will feed your church with undiluted Word.

House Fellowship Anthem

I love this family Of God,
So closely knitted into one,
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I know this family of God,
So deeply rooted in the word,
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I see this family of God,
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Come and join this family of God,
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SUGGESTED TIME SCHEDULE

10 minutes for Opening Prayer, Praise and Worship
10 minutes for Testimonies
15 minutes for Bible Discussion
15 minutes for General Prayers
10 minutes for Questions & Answers
5 minutes for Welcoming New Members
10 minutes for Announcements, Offering, House Fellowship Anthem & Closing Prayers.
Total – 60 Minutes (1 Hour)

AUTHOR:
Pastor E.A. Adeboye.
The General Overseer of, The Redeemed Christian Church Of God.